Perspective is Power

When I remove my expectations from an outcome I am free to be authentically…me! I’m owning my power to be happy or sad or whatever I authentically feel vs giving my power to someone else or to a situation to dictate how I will feel. I can choose to feel joy in the act of giving or doing something, no strings attached, because I’m honoring my authentic reasons for giving or doing that something. One of my favorite illustrations of this is when I pay for the order of the person behind me in a drive-through. Some may argue that there is a benefit to the person behind me and that I can take joy in that. Sure, I could, that perspective is great too. However, I may have just ruined that persons only chance to chat with the cute cashier while they were making change. Perhaps, I just insulted them because of some cultural belief that they hold about having strangers pay for them. The point is that I’m not in that car; I don’t know how my actions just impacted that persons life or if they even did. Perhaps, they are always having their purchases paid for by someone else and they rolled their eyes and chalked it up to the annoying luck that they have. So, why do I do it? Why do I do anything? Because it serves my own story somehow if I’m being completely honest. Because, I take joy in spending money. I take joy in “THINKING” that I have made someones day. I feel abundant when I spend money on a stranger whether they like it or not. When I move through my life conscious of my authentic self then I can trust that I am attracting people that are served by that in their stories. Basically, I can be ok with me, even happy and at peace with who I am because, well… it’s me! Sure, might I be attracting people that allow themselves to feel “xyz” and say it’s because of me? Sure… and that’s great! That’s their story. I celebrate that they are on their path… creating their life stories. They may be giving away their power to what I represent for them in that moment and that’s ok. It doesn’t have anything to do with me really. Good or bad, it has to do with what they think I represent.

Does anyone else identify with this? How does being conscious of your authentic self serve in your world?

♥Jolinda facebook/Perspective Is Power

In my world, there is my business, their business and my Greater Being’s business. What other people say and think of me (or anyone else for that matter) is non of my business. That is their business. Their reflections. I owned this one day several years back, while I was sitting on a beach, in my usual beach attire of jeans and a t-shirt. I felt I had to do the “right thing” and cover up my 250 pounds of flab. I knew what I thought of “those people” that go to the beach in their swimsuits with their less than perfect bodies. How dare they! They “should” this… They should that… The judgements just a spewing out of my mind. Why? Because when I looked at them all I saw was me. What I hated about them… I hated about me. However, that day, several years back, while I sat there sweating up a storm in my usual beach attire, something was different. I had been working on an inner journey towards love and self discovery. I sat there watching, what I thought of as, a very large and very pale woman frolicking in the surf. I noticed her joy, her bravery and her confidence. I watched her and said right on! You go girl! I was proud of, what I saw as, her acceptance of herself. That moment changed my life for the better in so many ways, but primarily it served to show me that I didn’t really know what that woman was thinking and why she was out there in all her glory (as I perceived it). I didn’t talk to her. I had no way of knowing if she was brave or self accepting or even joyful so, that meant that those things belonged to me. When I take my description above and replace the “her” with “I/my” look what happens….
“(I’m) a very large and very pale woman frolicking in the surf. I noticed (my) joy, (my) bravery and (my) confidence. I watched (myself) and said right on! You go girl! I was proud of, what I saw as, (my) acceptance of myself.
Indeed, that is what was going on too. I learned that day that what other people thought of me had nothing to do with me because I learned that what I thought of other people had nothing to do with them.

I am forever grateful to “The Work” by Byron Katie for helping me master this aspect of my creation process.

♥Jolinda facebook.com/Perspective Is Power