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This hits so close to home for me. When I get distracted with “stories” around how far it “seems” I have left to go, or how I’ll never be this or do that, I only have to pause and imagine attempting to reach my goals without eye sight or a part of my body. It could always be worse than I currently have it and once I look around the present moment I always find that I have it pretty darn great! ❤Jolinda

In my world, there is my business, their business and my Greater Being’s business. What other people say and think of me (or anyone else for that matter) is non of my business. That is their business. Their reflections. I owned this one day several years back, while I was sitting on a beach, in my usual beach attire of jeans and a t-shirt. I felt I had to do the “right thing” and cover up my 250 pounds of flab. I knew what I thought of “those people” that go to the beach in their swimsuits with their less than perfect bodies. How dare they! They “should” this… They should that… The judgements just a spewing out of my mind. Why? Because when I looked at them all I saw was me. What I hated about them… I hated about me. However, that day, several years back, while I sat there sweating up a storm in my usual beach attire, something was different. I had been working on an inner journey towards love and self discovery. I sat there watching, what I thought of as, a very large and very pale woman frolicking in the surf. I noticed her joy, her bravery and her confidence. I watched her and said right on! You go girl! I was proud of, what I saw as, her acceptance of herself. That moment changed my life for the better in so many ways, but primarily it served to show me that I didn’t really know what that woman was thinking and why she was out there in all her glory (as I perceived it). I didn’t talk to her. I had no way of knowing if she was brave or self accepting or even joyful so, that meant that those things belonged to me. When I take my description above and replace the “her” with “I/my” look what happens….
“(I’m) a very large and very pale woman frolicking in the surf. I noticed (my) joy, (my) bravery and (my) confidence. I watched (myself) and said right on! You go girl! I was proud of, what I saw as, (my) acceptance of myself.
Indeed, that is what was going on too. I learned that day that what other people thought of me had nothing to do with me because I learned that what I thought of other people had nothing to do with them.

I am forever grateful to “The Work” by Byron Katie for helping me master this aspect of my creation process.

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